Thanksgiving Mondays -3

Oh well, I totally forgot that I need to write my blog. It has been a tough week for me physically. I decided I need to do a little bit extra on my exercise routine and it has being very hard. But I am loving it.

Thanking someone should come from your heart. It is just not some words that you can say whenever you feel like it. It has to have a meaning. So today my thanks goes to a total stranger.

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Last Sunday I was rushing to the Supermarket through a parking lot in the morning. I was in a hurry to get back home and have a nice meal with my family and relax a bit and also I was in so much pain after my gym session. But… There was this elderly man who works as a security in that parking lot. he just smiled and said good morning! Nothing else. It made me smile and all that sullen mood I was in was vanished.

Be nice to people around you. Just smile because it can changed a life within a second.

So I am thankful to that stranger who changed my Sunday into a good one!!! ❤ ❤

Love to all!!!

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Thanksgiving Mondays -2

“The love of a FAMILY is life’s greatest blessing”!

Hope your week was good. It was pretty busy for me as I have to finish two assignments and it has been a long time since I worked for a deadline or to say on an assignment itself. It’s a challenge that I embraced very happily.

Over the week there were a few occasions that I got to think about my family. I have my Mother-in-law whom I think of a my mother and then there is My mother, father and my two sisters. Before I got married the four of them were there for me no matter what. The advice and the support that my parents gave me has made me a stronger woman to face many challenges in life.

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After getting married I met my Mother-in-law who changed my vision of life. She is an inspiration for me and has been my friend to lean on whenever I need. She has done a great deal of things for me, my husband and our son and still keeps on doing so even though she is far away from here.

My two sisters, the worst I can ask for but yeah I am blessed to have them. Even though that they will not realize now itself  how much I love them when they start their own families they will.

Today thanks goes to these 5 people in my life. If my husband is my foundation these 5 are the pillars.They keeps me strong. I hope that they are proud of who I have become. I am of them.

 

 

 

Thanksgiving Mondays -1

Mondays are supposed to be hectic because it’s the start of a busy week and you practically have to drag yourself from your bed/home to get to school or work. Hence  having all these Monday blues I thought I should make it a little interesting on  my end and also thought of sharing this with everyone because I know once you read something it makes you think. So here it is.

This idea came to me because of a series of thoughts a friend of mine posted on her blog.That made me think “why not do the same”. So here is to Seniinthebox for being an inspiration.

There are a few people in my life who helped me become who I am today. But If not for this person who I am thankful for today, i will definitely not be who I am now.Back in 2008,right after my A/Ls I was just a person who wanted to prove to my parents that I can do something worthwhile eventhough i didnt have any particular goals or aims.And then I met HIM

 He was extraordinary and full of goals. He made me think of my life and what I wanted to do with it. I started having dreams about a perfect family and a future with him by my side.

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It’s been 6 years and he still keeps me going. He hasn’t given up on his dreams which he has made around me and our son. I wanted to go out there and help people and he let me do so.  I wanted to be someone who people will turn to when they have problems.

He is no one else other than my HUSBAND. Thank you for being there for me and being my best friend and for having my back. I will definitely not be so strong and full of life if it was not for you. I am thankful to my husband today and tomorrow and forever.

Motherhood – The crown that has scars

Since waking up today all i did was go through so many posts about being a mother. How it changes you,your body or your mind. Well all that is true but why don’t we look at the bright side of it or read about how I feel about it. 😀

For a start being a mother is the greatest gift of being a woman (apart from having handbags and shoes of course).From the very first second you get to know that you are pregnant, you change. Mentally and physically even though the significant changes are yet to come. You try to dress comfortably and wear flats and walk slowly. And through out the pregnancy you plan how you are going to handle the baby and the work and everything. You look forward to hold the baby for the first time. When you get to hold your bundle of joy for the first time, the world stops and it’s you and him/her there. (And husband :D) Even though you have gone through a lot of pain and you can barely get up, you want to hold him/her and do everything by yourself. After going through a lot of not sleeping nights, food tantrums, anger issues and all that is there with a toddler you might again consider having another baby. Well, that is the motherhood for me. You never give up or had enough of it.

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It’s okay to let go once in a while. We are humans after all. Being a mother gives you some kind of super powers but it doesn’t contain the package of being sain at the same time. So take some time. Adjust yourself to let go of somethings. You don’t have to be that mother who neglect herself for the sake of her children. Do some exercise at home, eat healthy or whatever that you like. You don’t have to eat the leftover meals of your children. Have a drink with your husband and believe me that’s the best way to pour your heart out. 😀

Recently my husband told me that I need to spend more time with my son. I have my moments with him but yes I have not being spending much time but I watch how my husband and son bonds together. They play together, study together and fight together. He is almost 4 years now and the relationship he has with his dad is amazing. He doesn’t hesitate to tell anyone that his mother and dad are his best friends and what else can you ask from a 4 year old. This is motherhood for me.

There is no perfect way to be a good mother. Each situation is unique and each mother has different challenges, different skills and abilities and certainly different children. But what really matters is that a mother loves her children deeply enough.

Stay blessed everyone!

Traveling and Moving with Kids!

Hola Mommies!

It’s been a while, isn’t it? I have moved to Sydney, Australia with my family now and the transition period was bit tough as we have a naughty person on board with us. The good part is he was super supportive all the time and was less fussy during the flight. (Phew)

So I thought of telling you what I did to make him and our travelling and transition pleasant for the three of us. This may not be a big article but you’ll get the basic idea of what and what not to do while traveling and moving with kids.

Hokay so first of all, pick your travelling method. Since we had to come to Australia we had no other option (obviously) but to go with an airline. Choosing an airline is also bit tricky. There are so many with discounts and all but try to choose something that is reasonable yet comfortable for you and the kids. The time of the flight depends on the day that you book it and in our case we left Sri Lanka around 11.30 in the morning and from Singapore we had a night flight so the baby was sleeping most of the time.

If you are traveling in your own vehicle make sure you check all the tires and fill the fuel tank and keep. I don’t have much experience in traveling in our own vehicle but my dad make sure there is an extra bottle of fuel in the vehicle in case of emergency . If you have a booster seat that will be ideal ( In Australia you cant travel without a booster seat).

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Alright now you have to tell your little bundle all about your trip. Get them excited about the traveling. Let them pick their own cloths and get them to help you with packing.  Take plenty of diapers if you have a infant or a toddler who is using diapers. A water bottle or two and some snacks also will be ideal if you are going on a long distance trip. If you are taking a flight MAKE SURE you buy some ear plugs for you and your children. It helps a lot.there were a few children crying when taking off and landing because they didn’t have ear plugs.It really hurts.(Believe me it hurts a lot) .

During the travel time you have to keep yourself and the children happy. Once you get in to a mood or a bad situation your whole trip will be a disaster. If you are traveling in an aircraft they will provide the children with some interesting activity books and also there is plenty of movies to watch. (Oh phew) If you are traveling in a car or a van, you should try sing along games or guessing games or something like that which the whole family can join.

This part will be important for the mummies and daddies who are planning to migrate. Make sure you take your children most precious toys and books with you in the check in luggage.Or maybe you give them a small backpack and tell them to take their IMPORTANT things in that. Why I highlighted the word “important” is, when you say it like that it gives them responsibility. ( I packed my sons hot wheels toys in his backpack and told him to take it with him, he didn’t want the immigration officers to open it even saying that it’s his important stuff)

So these are the basic things you need to consider before traveling with kids. If you have any questions to ask don’t hesitate. Comment below or drop a test on the Facebook page and i’ll b glad to help you out.

Happy traveling ladies!!!

 

Things for you to do around Colombo!

Hola mummies/ladies!

Hope all the festival vibe has gone by now and you all are on the lookout for a few adventures. Being part of a few groups I thought i would enlighten you with what you can do around Colombo.

Book Swap Colombo 

This is where all the book lovers meet up to exchange the books or maybe sniff the books because you know each book has a unique smell. We ( I can say “We” because i have been a part of this for sometime now) just want whoever is happy with letting go of their books, to be happy with getting more books in a similar way to be there and share your time.

What happens here is we meet once a month ( Create an event on the Book Swap Colombo Facebook page)and we exchange books.Just think that you have a book that u read but you really don’t want it to be with you, you can bring it along to the book swap and let someone else read it. In exchange you can find something that you like from there and take it with you. ( Believe me there is a biiiiggg box of books, so you will not get disappointed)Even if you don’t have a book to exchange you can come and take a book. 🙂

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People who come there love books.There are all kind of writers, poets, singers, lawyers, doctors, Engineers and what not. We don’t judge people even if you are covered with tattoos or body paint or anything. Only thing is you should love the books and you will fit in the crowd.

Apart from the book swapping, most of us hang out there with weird talks and coffee. ( Not very very weird) Most of the peeps know each other because they have been coming there for a long time.

There are a few plans in progress and very recently we did a wonderful job by collecting more than 250 books fro a donation to a library in Galle. This happened within a week and we are so grateful for all the donations. Not every person can have a heart to donate books.

Facebook link : https://www.facebook.com/groups/colombobook/

Letter Earthlings

Even though we live in this all electronic century there is a sentimental value of writing letters. I love to read letters or write in that case. You may think this is old fashion but you will be surprised to see so many young people gathering to spread love in an old fashion way through Letter Earthlings.

The founder of LE is Nivendra Uduman! This is what the Facebook description about us. ( Safe to call “Us” because I have been a part of this as well)

“We are a group of people who love writing letters, receiving letters, and most importantly spreading happiness and love through the power of letter writing. It is a safe and positive way of empathizing with another human-being and also showing support and care. We are always happy to spread the joy of reading and writing letters to others we know and we do not know. So, come be a part of a love revolution with us, just by writing letters.

You can request letters for those who you care about, for yourself or for a stranger. It may be for someone who is going through a rough patch or just to empower and encourage someone further. This could be done on our page by just clicking on the ‘contact us’ button. These requests will be made available at our letter writing gatherings so that people can write letters for those you’ve requested letter for.

We accept requests from anywhere in the world. No boundaries, no international borders. But, universal love.”

There are a lot of colorful stationary and all sort of things to make your letter interesting. Each month we get about 10-15 letter requests if I am correct. What all you have to do is, Sit – relax and keep on writing.

Facebook page : https://www.facebook.com/letterearthlings/timeline

There are a few more events that happen each month. But I haven’t had the opportunity to attend those and have a look. Colombo is an interesting place if you can find the best thing that suits you to do. If you need any details on the above events, drop a message on their Facebook page/group and they will love to get you on-board!

Autism – Warning signs and symptoms

Before writing this article I should state the fact that I have no Medical background. This is a simple attempt to put together the scattered data on the web to make it easy for parents to get an idea about Autism. I went through medical journals and papers and articles on the web to get all the facts correct and please do not hesitate to correct me if there is any mistake.

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As parents, we never want to believe that our precious bundle has a problem. But when it comes to Autism it’s better to identify it at an early stage. Treatments can reduce the disorder’s effects and help your child learn, grow and thrive.

Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) is a group of development disabilities that can cause considerable social communication and behavioral challenges. Some children might repeat certain behaviors and might not be comfortable with change occurring in their daily activities. The ways of learning, paying attention or reacting to things is different with each ASD child. However there is no cure for ASD so far but research shows that early intervention treatment services can improve a child’s development.

The signs and symptoms of autism vary widely. Some autism children only have mild impairments while others have more to overcome. However every child with autism have problems a least to some degree in the following three areas.

  1. Communication
  2. Relating
  3. Thinking and Behaving

Parents are in the best position of identifying the symptoms because you know your child better than anyone.The pediatrician can be a valuable asset but he/she might not have the chance to identify anything during your 15 mins visit.

  • Monitor your child’s development

I know this is no easy task. We need to get out sometimes and relax and enjoy. But keeping an closer eye on when your child is hitting the key milestones is an effective way to spot the problems early.

  • Take actions if you are concerned

Every Child’s development is different. So you don’t need to worry or panic. ( Believe me I know how we panic). But if the child is not meeting the milestones for his/her age or you suspect a problem go meet your doctor.

  • Don’t accept a Wait- and – see approach

I know,we all say this. “Lets wait and see” But in this case it’s the worst. You are risking valuable time at an age where your child has the best chance of improvement.

  • Trust your instincts

Well. you are the best. You know how to react. Sometimes even the best doctors will miss red flags or underestimate problems. Listen to your gut. If it tells you that there is something wrong seek for second opinion or go meet a child development specialist.

Some children with autism start to develop communication skills and them regress, usually between 12-24 months. For Example ; a child who was communication with words such as “mommy”. “up” may stop using the language entirely. ( Any loss of speech, babbling, gestures or social skills should be taken very seriously as regression is a major red flag for autism)

The earliest signs of autism involve the absence of normal behavior not the presence of abnormal ones. So they can be tough to spot. In some cases, quiet, independent and undemanding babies can be autism victims (Don’t panic now, keep a track on their Milestones and you are good to go)

Early sings of Autism in babies/toddlers

  • Doesn’t make eye contact
  • Doesn’t smile when smiled at
  • Doesn’t respond to his or her name or to the sound of familiar voice
  • Doesn’t follow objects visually
  • Doesn’t point or wave goodbye
  • Doesn’t follow the gesture when you point things out
  • Doesn’t make noise to get your attention
  • Doesn’t initiate or respond to cuddling
  • Doesn’t initiate your facial expressions
  • Doesn’t reach out to be picked up
  • Doesn’t play with other people or share interest and enjoyment
  • Doesn’t ask for help or make basic requests.

The following delays warrant an immediate evaluation by your child’s pediatrician.

  • By 6 months: No big smiles or other warm, joyful expressions
  • By 9 months: No back-and-forth sharing of sounds, smiles, or other facial expressions
  • By 12 months: Lack of response to name
  • By 12 months: No babbling or “baby talk”
  • By 12 months: No back-and-forth gestures, such as pointing, showing, reaching, or waving
  • By 16 months: No spoken words
  • By 24 months: No meaningful two-word phrases that don’t involve imitating or repeating

Autism children are not any different than any of our children. They deserve to be treated the same way and also should be privileged to have the same education as every child. Think differently and you will be able to ease a mothers worry thinking her child won’t fit into the society.

The above fact were taken from various web article and medical journals just to make it easy for the mothers to get an idea about autism. However if you find any of the details here are incorrect or misleading, feel free to let me know.

Next article will be on Autism symptoms on Older children!

 

Nursery hunting? Here are some useful tips…

Hola mommies! It is the beginning of 2016 and you might be considering to put your little one to a nursery next year. The process of finding a good place is like finding a needle in a hay sack. You will have to visit at least 4 nurseries before  considering one perfect place for your child.

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I started nursery hunting a few months ago. Here is my experience and some tips to help you go through the process. I will not mention any names or people as I am not sponsoring  any of them.

First of all I listed out all the requirements that I look for in a nursery. My list was a bit big but managed to narrow it down to a few very useful points.

  • Close to home/Easy to travel.
  • English Medium ( in my case this is)
  • Small group of children
  • Easy learning methods
  • Pleasant teachers
  • Extra activities/out door activities
  • Steady time table
  • A well watched play area
  • Reasonable fee/registration

Then I googled for nurseries close by to my house and you’ll be surprised with the results. I found more than 20 places close by. I got a list and first of all called them to get an appointment. Some places wasn’t very good at talking on the phone, so I crossed their names. After all my son will be learning from them and I definitely don’t want rude people teaching him.

I visited four nurseries in the end. One place was recently opened but the teaching methods and teachers were not up to my standards. So many people can diplomas in early childhood education and start up a nursery as soon as they finish their studies. They don’t have experience handling children or teaching them. Theory knowledge is not enough, you need to be practical with children.

After getting disappointed 3 times, i went to a place in Havelock town. A well known nursery.good environment, pleasant teachers and everything seems to be fine.

It is important that you find a place close to your house or work place. When there is a n emergency you should be able to reach them soon. Traveling these days is a hectic job even for an adult so don’t put your children in the same situation.

You should be able to talk with the teachers whenever you want to without being a nuisance.When there is a large number of children in a class it is always a mess.Minimum number should be 15-20 which will have small groups within.

When you visit the nursery they to stay there when the children get to play. Then you can see how teachers/assistants protect your children from injuries or miss behaving.

Think about your pocket as well. We all want our children to have the best, but doing extreme is not the way. Nursery is the starting point of their lives. Down the line if you decide that the fee is too much and put them into a different place they will fall back and you definitely will destroy their confidence.

I hope I helped you in someway!

Happy Hunting mummies!

 

7 Phrases a parent should never say again!

When we are parents we desperately try to make things right by guiding our children to be smart. During the process, with or without our knowledge we might hurt their feelings or give them a wrong idea.

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Being a mother of a 3 year old full of energy son, i know how hard it is to control the tantrums and demands all the time. What we all do at this kind of situation is shout or be mad with them. The words that we use possess has the power to discourage, depress and destroy. But if you’ve been there you know how frustrating it is to see the little person not doing what you want them to do.

I’ve been researching for a while about how to handle toddler tantrums without hurting their feelings or making them cry even more. So this is what I found.

I often use the phase (I know I do), ” What were you thinking?” when we get angry with them for making a mess or a mistake. But inside their little brain the question transforms in to a different form. Even though we use the exact same words, what it really means is ” Why are you so stupid?” You didn’t know right? Yes, I am in the same boat.

Next one is very common. “How many times have I told you?“. I know,we’ve all been there. We get super mad when they repeat the same mistake over and over again. Here what we really mean is “Can’t you seriously get this right? Why can’t you remember evry single thing I say?“. Well, they are small and they can do mistakes.

I haven’t use this one so far and not planning to use it soon either. 😉 “Why can’t you be like your brother/sister/friend?“. We humans tend to compare each other whenever it’s possible. I have seen mothers comparing their children to their neighbors children, school friends. What you simply mean here is ” You are not good enough“. Ouch! It hurts..

I have taken my son on play dates and of course I often use this one. “She/he is just tired“.Even though I don’t mean it to be like this, what it really mean is “I am okay with my child acting like this“. Sometimes it’s embarrassing to face restaurant tantrums, supermarket tantrums. People do judge you like they haven’t got any children. These phrases come out without us even noticing.

I am sure most mums with teenagers use this a lot. “Clean up your room,OK?“. Well, I’ve been a teenager once. I know how hard it is to clean a room. As parents we should establish some boundaries and getting permission from our children is not one of them.What you really mean here is “If it’s really okay with you, will you obey the commands I am giving you?“. I know right? We never realize that these words have a hidden meaning.

Do I have to count to three?” Well,well… Sometimes we all do have to count. Don’t we? It’s really difficult to get them kids to do a task in one go. We think that they will get scared when we started counting. This is what that means. “I don’t require you to obey me all the time, just when I get mad enough to count“. How magical does that sounds? it is not my greatest joy to tell you that i use this all the time and never get a result back.

When we want to justify our child we say “It’s just the way he/she is“. This indicates that “Inappropriate behavior is acceptable if it is a regular habit“.I have faced this situation and just to get ourselves out of the embarrassment we use these things.

Well, what’s your score? I think most of us use these phrases when we talk to our children. what everyone should understand is, you cannot be a perfect mother or father but you can be a better one.

Hope this helps you! Happy parenting!!!

A little help for the feeding battle (Part 2)

First of all thank you all for the lovely comments you gave me last time. It took so long for me to write again. I’ve been super duper busy with my full of energy son and completely forgot about writing. So here it is..

We discussed how to get started on solids. It is an never ending battle. ( Tell me about it). All of you must be desperately wondering what to feed and what not to feed. I googled all most a month to get everything sorted out. Internet is full of information, but there are things that you have to avoid doing as well.

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When I first ask my pediatrician, what he told me was to put ( rice, carrot, potatoes, beans, cabbage) everything together and cook and make a puree. Well,it was awful. No taste at all. I couldn’t imagine my son eating something like that for another 4-5 months. So I became the super mum and found new recipes and methods to feed the little man.

Here are a few of them.

  • Carrot puree
    • Half of a carrot cleaned and washed and water.
    • Unsalted Butter

Cook the carrots until tender. ( Cut the carrots in to little square pieces then it will cook soon) Put the cooked carrots in the grinder or a baby food processor and blend until you get the right texture.

The puree can be a little sweet and sometimes it’s tasteless. i added a little bit of unsalted butter and made it edible.

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  • Broccoli and Pumpkin puree
    • Half a broccoli
    • Small pieces of Pumpkin

Cook them until tender and put them together and make a puree. Add a little bit of unsalted butter if you like.

There are some fruits and vegetable that you need to cook to make them in to a puree. here is the list and some more tips.

Fruits: Apples, Apricots,dates,peaches,pears,plums

Veges: Beans, Carrots, Cauliflower, Broccoli,peas, potatoes, parsnip, sweet potato, pumpkin

  1. Wash and peel. Chop if necessary.
  2. Place in a small saucepan.
  3. Pour water enough to cover, bring to boil.
  4. Grind the veges or fruits and make the puree.

Purees can be frozen for use at a later date. But you must put it in a closed containers and always must taste before you give it to the baby. Some times he color might change but the taste will not change at all. If you think the puree is tasting a bit funny throw it away. Don’t judje the second thought when it comes to your baby’s food.

Here is a list of purees that you can try out

  • Broccoli and avocado puree
  • Carrot, potato and broccoli puree
  • Pear and date puree
  • Banana and strawberry puree

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( These recipes might be in the internet because i also googled and found them)

That was for the age of 4-6 months. Here is what you can give from 6 months to 8 months.

Since the baby is used to eating puree and other food items ( I am guessing that you are giving cereal, yogurt in between the main meal), you can introduce soup items as well. When the baby is 6 months you can introduce meat items as well.

You can make a nice vegetable soup enriched with few sprats and some good pieces of chicken. Blend the soup until there are no vegetable pieces left and feed it to the baby.

Here is a list of What I gave. ( Or at least tried to give :D)

  • Vanilla custard
  • Cream of pumpkin and potato soup
  • Mango and apple smash
  • Chicken and vegetable soup
  • Vegetable puree

Make sure you don’t over cook the fruits and vegetables. It’s all about the nutrition. Main while keep communicating with the baby. It helps them to understand you and the world through you.

Happy feeding mummies!