Let’s say “Please” in a practical way!

It’s been a while, isn’t it? Well, let me get back on track. Since been here in Sydney I have noticed that lot of people have good values. They are not afraid to demand their rights and also not hesitating to say ” sorry” or ” please” where it is necessary. But, this is different with kids. They are bit reluctant to say sorry or please at anytime. One will say this is just kids been kids but we have to teach them to be humble where it is necessary. So here are some practical ways to teach your kids good values.

We are saturated in popular culture.It attacks us where ever we go. It can be through social media, print media or any other form of media. The problem is that we get the good with the bad. And that’s where we, parents come in. What do we want our children to learn? How do we teach them good values when there is so much available to teach them the opposite?

Let’s take this step by step.

Empathy

Children learn a lot from us. They need to see us model empathy to understand how it works. I know doing these things are hard as we have to deal with all day activities. Maybe once week you can try to bring out these topics and talk to them. Talk to them about what it is like to be in another person’s shoes. Talk to them about how someone is going through a hard time might be feeling. Then be intentinal about showing empathy. This could include befriending a lonely person or inviting someone who is alone for a social gathering.

Respect

This is very much lacking in the mordern era. Look for ways to bring respect into daily life. Talk to them about why you should respect people, authorities,property and the environment.

Respecting encironment is as important as respecting people. you can get involved in community projects such as cleaning rubbish from a public area and talk about how littering is not showing respect. ( This however will be difficult to do in Sri Lanka. Maybe you can look for a group of mums who likes to join and make it a small picnic and teach them the good values)

Value- Based Decisions

This you can do almost everyday. For example, you promised your friend a play date on a certain day but another friend calls and ask you to do something more exciting. What whould you do? You can get your children involved in the decition making.

You can make some cards with hypothetical scenarioes that called for value-based decitions and discuss those at mealtimes.

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Wise Money Managemet

Talk to your childrn about the value of money. Even though you are swimming in a pool full with money, you should prepare your kids to manage their money wisely. If you have teenagers at home this is very important.

Pay your children a small amount for doing jobs at home and outside and teach them to budget it. Teach them to save some and to give a little waya to help peolpe in need. This infact I have seen Ausi mums doing a lot.

This is very important as it will build the foundation to good management of money when they grow up.

Service to Others

This ear is more forcused on ” Look out for yourself” rather than helping others. Dicsuss why you do it and why living a life giving is more satisfying than living a self-oriented one. Then make it paractical by volunteering at a kitchen or going and helping an elderly couple to clean their garden.

Kids enjoy the feeling of doing something for someone else, even if they might be initially reluctant.

Our children are smart. They can quickly pick someone genuine from a hypocrite and they alo know the difference between right and wrong. By practicing what we peach we can rest assured that we have done everything we can to teach them good values. And it’s rewarding to see them carrying on the legacy and choosing good values for themselves.

Bride Quartet Series – Nora Roberts

goodread rating : 4.1

It has come to my attention that I read a lot od Nora Roberts. That’s mostly because it’s very easy to decide on her books and also it’s very easy to grab and go when I am in a hurry ( In my defence which is always). I came upon this sets of books when I was not in a hurry but until I read the first book I didn’t know it was a series which proves that I am not so good at using goodreads. :/

As little girls MacKensie, Emma, Laurel, and Parker spent hours acting out their perfect make believe “I do” moments. Years later their fantasies become reality when they start their own wedding planning company to make every woman’s dream day come true. With perfect flowers, delicious desserts, and joyful moments captured on film, each book will enhance how each of these girls find love with their busy shedules to make other girls dreams come true.

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Bride Quartet – Nora Roberts

Well, of course I missed the first book Vision in White where the story started bulding step by step but you will not get dissapointed even if u start with the last book. NR has written four amazing books in a series where you can easyly read only one book even. So go grab yourself which ever book  is available and start reading.

 

Bed Of Roses (#Book No.2)

While reading this book it made me think back of my childhood dreams and of course friends. Some are still there I guess but have changed a lot since we last met. So this is not just a romance novel for me, it has opened my mind about the things I miss and I wish i coud have.

Coming back to the story, the second book is based on Emma the florist . She does amazing work with flowers and has a dream of her own to find the man of her life. That’s where Jack Cooke comes. He has been a childhood friend of all four girls but things change when he starts seeing Emma in a different way. v

Savor the Moment (#Book No.3)

Laurel has always relied on her friends for support, especially when her dream of attending culinary school was almost ruined by her parents’ financial problems. But with her friends support she is making mind blowing creations with her own hands for their clients weddings.

She belives in romance but she appriciate a strong, intelligent man  who is just like her friend’s brother Del.The have been friends for almost forevr and Del thinks of them all as his own sisters. But having a huge crush on him for ages Laurel is set to remind him that she is not his sister.

Happy Ever After (#Book No.4)

Being the back bone of the business and managing everything Paker is always busy. But she is determined to find someone for herself who will uderstand her and her business as well.

Being with the lot because of Del, Malcom has seen how the four girls work and is impressed by Parker. He is set in makig her his and charm her to enjoy her life while doing all the things to keep her business smooth.

 

To The Moon And Back – Jill Mansell

goodread rating : 4.0

I haven’t read a Jill Mansell book in like ages. Mostly because I couldn’t find where they were. The libraries here in Australia are very neat and well organized. Took sometime for me to adjust to the lableling of books and finding this.

So, here is what I think about this book. firstly I think jill has covered most of the areas of a womans life. Love, marraige, children, loosing a husband, cheating on another woman with her husband, having strong minds, finding your hidden talents and so on. Did i give away anything?

Frackly I can’t even imagine what Ellie went through after loosing her husband. It’s not the same without a beloved one near you. Some how she overcome that but she has a secret too. There, I got you excited right? Then comes the interesting part. Zack!!! Her new boss who was having butterflies in his belly everytime he sees Ellie. He has to control himself around her and it’s giving him nightmares.

Then there is Ellie’s friend Roo. Her stroy is also very much interesting and this all comes out very nicey to build a stroy that will keep you hooked on the book for few hours. I will stop giving away the tle now. Go see if you can find it and give it a go.

Happy reading folks. 🙂

13 Reasons Why – A Netflix Original

Why I love this series? This kept me hooked until the end and I am still wondering what exactly happened. At first I had to force my husband to watch it with me because at a glance it looks like a teen series. But into the first 5 minute of the first episode we both were so hooked and couldn’t wait to watch the end.

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I am not gonna tell the whole story but, I am gonna tell you what I felt through out the series. Watching what happened to  Hannah and watching it crushing her down little by little made me realize that I will be letting my son into a world like that. It made me wonder what I could do to make him realize that every life is precious and every act counts. And also it got me worried thinking what if the same thing happen to a boy.

In this case, producing a healthy, friendly and a smart young man into a society has to start from home. This goes towards girls as well. A girl should be smart, lovely and confident in what she is doing. Rocks and stones are to come towards you in many forms. It could be an insult or a bad post on Facebook but you have to be strong enough to let that go and carry on with your life.

If you haven’t watch it yet go watch. It’s really interesting and if you are a parent i promise you it will make you think.

 

The Irish trilogy – Nora Roberts

The final book of the Irish trilogy and I am wishing that there are more books on the series. It was a exciting journey, reading about all the Gallagher siblings and their lives. Here is a small conclusion to what I think about the last book.

Heart of the Sea

goodread rating: 4.13

Darcy Gallagher despite being quick tempered at times,always believed in fate, the magic of legend. She longs to find a rich man who will sweep her away – into a world filled with glamour and adventure, and the exotic life that is her destiny.

 

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Heart of the Sea

“All he’d learned was that love was a jewel with too many facets to count. Strength and weakness running side by side through it. And that no one could give or take it with any less than an open hand.”

A wealthy businessman with Irish blood, Trevor Magee comes to Ardmore to build a theater – and uncover the secrets hidden in his family’s past. He thought he had given up on love long ago, but Darcy  seduce him to fall on his knees in front of her and made him desperate for love.Not knowing how to put his love into words he make it sound like a business deal which turns the story into an exciting yet terrifying point.. But as their mutual attraction flares into passion, they look into their hearts – and find out what happens when you truly believe.

Hope you will like this too.

The Irish trilogy – Nora Roberts

On to the next of the trilogy. NR let you wonder what the next story is going to be. So here is how I think of it.

Tears of the Moon

goodread rating : 4.18

Going back to the beauty of Ireland, Gallagher’s Pub and the O’Toole family, it brings out the realization of being friends and how it complicates the romance.

Shawn Gallagher being the cook at the pub and having a fashion for writing songs spends his days lost in reverie and wonder, oblivious to the wiles of women and the ways of the world. He claims that he’s content with his life, but his music tells a different story—one of loneliness and desperate longing…

Brenna O’Toole, a fiercely independent tomboy who has been secretly in love with him for years understands him and make an effort to get him to realize his fate with her. With love, anger, frustration and determination both comes to realize that they are meant for each other.

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Tears of the Moon

“You don’t fix a man the way you do a fault in a pipe or a leak in a roof. You take him as he is, Mary Brenna, or you don’t take him at all…adjustments can’t be all made on one side, darling, else the balance goes off and what’s being built just falls down.”

In between the story of Brenna and Shawn we get to hear about Magee but it doesn’t say what will be happening which let us curious about the next book.

I am not gonna spoil sports more but the ending was so perfect and it suited the both characters that NR highlighted in this book.

 

The Irish trilogy – Nora Roberts

Nora Roberts is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of more than 200 novels and has been one of my favorite authors since I started reading her novels. Romance / Thrill / Suspense and great many categories are there in her work. Most of the time there is some history attached to it. Her writing style makes you want to keep reading. Intimacy and Romance is written in a way that gives you goosebumps and there is always a longing to see what happens next.

Although this is not my very first NR novel/trilogy this is what I am currently reading. ( Reading it made me started this blog thread ) The Irish trilogy has three books.

  1. Jewels of the Sun
  2. Tears of the Moon
  3. Heart of the Sea

Jewels of the Sun

Goodreads Rating : 4.22

Nora Roberts takes you to the lush, green hills of Ireland, where love is forever touched by magic and where lovers will meet for the first time to explore their hearts looking for love.

After having life changing moments in her life, Jude Murray goes to live in Faerie Hill Cottage which belongs to her grand mother. Finding herself enchanted by the beauty of the village and the liveliness of the people she decided to explore more on the history and also to find herself.

“…she lost twenty minutes sitting on the floor with her arms wrapped around her knees, smiling into the pretty glow and imagining herself a contented farmer’s wife waiting for her man to come in from the fields.”

The Gallagher family is well known i the area and the eldest, Aidan becomes close to Jude. The first stage of Romance and the intimacy between them is described in a way that you feel that it’s you who is in the story. Wrapped in Magic and ancient love they finally find themselves in love and break one spell to make the lost lovers of past meet again.

If you starts reading this, you will need to keep doing so until you find out what happens in the next book. Let’s wait a beat, Shall we? 🙂

Next: Tears of the moon review